Love makes us vulnerable because love and pain go hand in hand. When things are going well in our loving relationships they offer deep joy and fulfillment. When things are not going well they can be the cause of tremendous suffering. The truth is there are no rule books for relationships and they can often feel complex.
We all need support in fostering healthy partnership, whether you find yourself in a relationship that is in reasonable shape or in one that is needing repair. It takes a lot of courage to seek support. I am glad you are here. Regardless of outcome, our work together will foster a deeper connection to yourself and in turn with your partner.
Most of us do not enter into relationships anticipating this moment...sitting where you are right now. It is important for you to know that I will meet you exactly where you are with warmth and curiosity.
I approach couples coaching using Relational Life Therapy (RLT). RLT was developed by Terry Real, a psychotherapist, speaker, and author who specializes in relationship concerns. RLT is a form of couples counseling that aims to move you out of your knee-jerk reactions and into a more compassionate and collaborative part of yourself. I will teach you the skills for better connection to yourself and your partner. Our sessions will give you greater capacity for life in general and your relationships in particular. Our work together will be engaging, practical and experientially based. With relationship coaching you can:
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forge new connections with one another
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establish and live towards shared values that are truly yours
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communicate the hard stuff
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avoid repeating mistakes and patterns that aren't working
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manage painful thoughts and feelings effectively (grief, anger, frustration, numbness)
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foster deeper intimacy
In our first session together we will uncover your particular painful cycle and what keeps you there, utilize what you do well, and get clear about your values and what you most want. We will forge a partnership together in creating a plan of action for you to make real change in a short amount of time. Get ready to work.